Reframing Consent



The current definition of consent 'is defined by section 74 Sexual Offences Act 2003. Someone consents to vaginal, anal or oral penetration only if s/he agrees by choice to that

penetration and has the freedom and capacity to make that choice. Consent to sexual

activity may be given to one sort of sexual activity but not another, e.g.to vaginal but not

anal sex or penetration with conditions, such as wearing a condom. Consent can be

withdrawn at any time during sexual activity and each time activity occurs'*

 

In the eyes of the law, during an investigation of possible rape, what steps the suspect

took, if any, to obtain the complainant's consent must be established. The prosecution

must prove that the suspect did not have a reasonable belief that the complainant was

consenting* to be charged with rape.


As the current law stands, consent can only be withdrawn if there is an explicit verbal

refusal. However, if we take the notion above as the only understanding of consent, we

cannot account for the range of cases where there is no explicit refusal: verbal or non-

verbal. Whilst it is necessary to determine whether or not consent is given, we should seek

to go further in understanding the nuanced nature of sexual dynamics.


The law must recognise that there are other cues in which consent can be denied. For

example, acknowledging unequal power dynamics in the workplace, or the psychologically

manipulative power held in a coercively controlling (abusive) relationship.


These cases are hard to define; they are grey areas and go beyond the clear-cut consent

parameters. They fit somewhere between explicit refusal and complete mutuality.


There is an intended exertion of power in cases where consent has been received

(verbally or non-verbally) but actively ignored. Such cases hold clear and evident abuse of

power because there is an active pursuit against the individual will.


Alternatively, there are cases where power exertion is not necessarily intended because

the cues are not being received, thus aren't intentionally ignored. In these cases, there is a more pursuit against the individual will.


What distinguishes the two is not the outcome but the intention.


In the latter, passive case, it is not a question of whether the cues are being ignored, but

rather that they are not being received at all. To distinguish the 'passive' pursuit from the

'active' pursuit is necessary to understand how the power imbalance in a wider, social

sense, manifests itself in intimacy.


While both are symptomatic of a misogynistic culture, cases where there is a passive

pursuit are insidious.


'Passive' cases can be considered 'grey' areas, because they are characterised by

pressures rooted in gender biases, as opposed to pressures coming directly from the

perpetrator. These pressures can be inherent in such cases because they are rooted in a

culture that teaches young girls and women to be relentless people pleases and to not be

difficult.


The perceived lack of 'want' (of a woman's own sexual desire) in our culture, also suggests

an original lack of considered mutuality in sex. This suggests that there is a considered

underlying level of pressure involved. Since these attitudes are so deeply ingrained with

what is considered a normal function of intimacy, they are not seen as coercive pressures.

Consequentially, they do not constitute as part of our understanding when talking about

consent.


In the same way that there is an abuse of power in 'active' pursuits, so too is there in

'passive pursuits', only they are more subtle in nature and entrenched in society's fabric.


Our current notion of consent needs to acknowledge the different kinds of pressures that

can be involved in sexual dynamics.


The current focus on consent is on 'letting' as opposed to 'wanting'. Whilst 'letting' is a

necessary condition for consenting, it is not a sufficient one. To let someone do something

is not necessarily to choose out of one's own volition. Alternatively, 'wanting' is motivated

predominantly by individual desire. The question concerning consent should thus be

reframed to ask 'did they want to have sex with me?' as opposed to 'did they let me have

sex with them?’* . The former is concerned with the mutuality of the decision. The latter is

exclusively concerned with whether or not direct force is imposed, disregarding any other

pressures that could motivate the decision.


Reframing consent in this way would allow both parties to know that the decision is

reciprocal, free of any other pressures, and seeks to go further to adjust and unlearn the

biases reflected in sexual experiences. It will allow us to identify the internalised biases,

rebuild and relearn what we have been socialised to deem normal in intimacy.





Citation:


https://www.nhs.uk/about-the-nhs-website/professionals/healthandcareprofessionals/child-sexual-exploitation/documents/consent-information-leaflet.pdf


A.Alcantra, 2018, The Lily